When you give yourself entirely to someone, there’s a certain feeling of vulnerability that’s coupled with it. When you give your mind, body, soul, and everything, you are out of options. Sure, you can always say “Well don’t do it then, moron.” but I don’t think it’s ever that easy. When you find someone you love, (keep in mind you’re always able to love more than one person if the first, second third, etc don’t work out hence the usage of someone), some feel compelled to do just that, where you just cave, collapse, and surrender yourself. You’re helpless. But that helplessness feels like different than the usual one when you’re met with adversity that may be able to be too much to handle, so you buy into it.
What happens when that vulnerability and helplessness ends up being real, and being exposed by that person you love? Where do you turn? Where do you go? You might feel hatred, you might feel lonely, you might feel remorse or guilt for ever doing such. Self doubt. Self blame. Maybe you’ve done nothing wrong. Are you at fault? More times than not you probably aren’t.
The only thing you can do is take the pain in your heart, the emptiness, and the sadness and grow. Don’t let it defeat you. Your battle with it might be a few days, a few weeks, a few months, or even a few years. But you must win, and you must continue to live a life full of love.